What is Necessary?

My Dad was a great man,  he was a commercial fisherman and a farmer.  He really knew how to work.  Dad passed away in May of 2010, I really miss him and can’t wait to see him again.  In the winter, he would get up at 3:30 am, and be on the river fishing by 6 am.  In the summer, he was on the tractor by 7 am and would work until dark some days.

I am child #4 for my folks and the youngest, in fact, my brother was 14 when I was born.  In a way, I was raised as an only child because my older siblings had moved out by the time I can really remember.

I was talking with my Mother the other day and she told me a story about my Dad I have never heard:

When the 3 older kids were still very young, Dad would get up at 3am, go do his fishing, then go drive a truck delivering seed.  He wouldn’t get home until around midnight every night, then do the same thing the next day.  My Mother told me the only time the older kids saw Dad was on Sunday.  Apparently, he did this for years.

At first, I thought to myself, “Wow, what an amazing man, how did he have the energy to do that?!”  After my Mom and I hung up, I kept thinking about this, it was really bothering me and I couldn’t understand why.  For several days I thought about it, then the answer came to me:  How sad for my siblings that my Dad was gone all the time?  I have found this to be a painful thought when I dwell on it.  I mean, by the time I was in the picture, my Dad had moved into a place in life where he didn’t have to work like that anymore.  Don’t take me wrong, he worked a lot.  I only remember my Dad coming to one or two of my baseball games, one football game, and one basketball game.  That being said, my Dad was ALWAYS at home at night.  He was there on the weekends.

My Dad not only knew how to work hard, he knew how to play hard.  We went to the movies every Thursday night, we went out to eat every Tuesday, he played bluegrass with his band just about every Friday and Saturday night.  It was a big deal and something I ALWAYS looked forward to.

My point is this:   WHAT IS NECESSARY?

Recently, Dawna and I bought some land with a house in Colorado.  We were blessed to be able to pay cash for it, however, to do it we completely drained our bank account.  I am blessed with a career  as an RN and decided I would build our bank account up by working 6 days a week for a couple of months.  Let me tell you, that completely sucked!  I work 12 hour days, 72 hours in the ER is excruciating and I wouldn’t wish on anyone!

Dawna and I were apart all the time, I was exhausted and couldn’t think deep thoughts at all.  Of course my time with God went to the wayside, Dawna and I began bickering a lot, I became an irritated pain in the rear.

Could I really hope to sustain this ridiculous schedule?  Of course not!

Thankfully, I was able to reduce my hours in the upcoming schedule.

In one of the Star Trek movies, Spock’s father said, “What is necessary is never wrong.”

Was it wrong for my Dad to work that much?   Was it wrong for me to work all those hours to build up my bank account?  I would say the answer is no, however, was it really necessary?  One could argue it was necessary, looking back on my part, I am leaning more towards the thought that it was not necessary.  In fact, I feel it was foolish and unhealthy for me.  It’s been several weeks since I had this ridiculous schedule and I am just now beginning to feel normal again.

Read this passage from Luke 10:38-42

Martha and Mary

38 Now as they were traveling along, He entered a village; and a woman named Martha welcomed Him into her home. 39 She had a sister called Mary, who was seated at the Lord’s feet, listening to His word. 40 But Martha was distracted with all her preparations; and she came up to Him and said, “Lord, do You not care that my sister has left me to do all the serving alone? Then tell her to help me.” 41 But the Lord answered and said to her, “Martha, Martha, you are worried and bothered about so many things; 42 but only one thing is necessary, for Mary has chosen the good part, which shall not be taken away from her.”

Was Martha doing a bad thing in and of itself?  No

Was Martha doing something good?  Yes

What does Jesus tell her?  Only one thing is necessary.


I encourage you all to ask yourself the question when you look at your life.  What is REALLY NECESSARY?


Earnestly contending for the faith,





  1. Dawna
  2. Cynthia